12 Things Americans Might Do Wrong in France
Many Americans don’t realize just how differently small behaviors are perceived in France. If you’re new to France and the French culture, here are a few mistakes to avoid to make your stay friction-free!
1. Speaking too loud
If you’re used to lively conversations in public places, know that speaking loudly can stand out in France. French people generally speak at a lower volume, especially in public spaces. Keeping your voice down, especially in restaurants, museums, and on public transport, will make you blend in better.
2. Forgetting “bonjour”
In France, it’s considered rude to start any interaction without a polite greeting. Say “Bonjour” when entering shops, restaurants, or cafes, and “Au revoir” (goodbye) when you leave. It’s a basic cultural courtesy, and skipping it can come across as impolite.
3. Dressing too casual
If you’re used to wearing shorts, flip-flops, or baseball caps around town, note that in France, people dress more formally, especially in cities like Paris. Wearing simple, neat attire will help you blend in better and avoid standing out as a tourist.
4. Being impatient with service
In the U.S., quick service is common, but in France, service is often slower and less focused on customer satisfaction. It’s normal to wait for the bill or for service in a café or restaurant. If you need something, politely get the server’s attention with “Excusez-moi” rather than rushing them.
5. Making comparisons
You might be tempted to say “This isn’t like the U.S.” when something surprises you. Try to avoid these comparisons. Many French people take pride in their culture, and such remarks may come across as disrespectful or even annoying.
6. Talking about Money
In the U.S., discussing income or spending habits is often casual. In France, these topics are generally private. Bringing up money can come across as boastful or even vulgar, so it’s best to keep financial topics to yourself.
7. Expecting large portions
In France, portion sizes tend to be smaller than in the U.S. This is cultural, as you’re expected to savor meals without overeating. Enjoy each course slowly, and try not to expect American-style large servings.
8. Respect quiet hours
While quiet hours are common in the U.S., in France there’s more emphasis on keeping noise down in both private and public settings, especially from 10 p.m. to 7 a.m.
Keep voices low in hotel hallways, apartments, and even outdoor spaces during these hours to avoid disturbing others.
9. Sitting directly in cafés
In the U.S., it’s common to sit wherever you like. In France, it’s polite to wait for a signal from the staff in sit-down cafés. Look for the server or host to guide you to a table, even if the café looks empty.
10. Not using formal titles with older people
While many Americans are used to a first-name basis with everyone, keep in mind that French people often use titles, especially with older adults or people they don’t know well. Address older or unfamiliar adults as “Monsieur” (Mr.) or “Madame” (Mrs.) as a sign of courtesy.
11. Expecting to use public restrooms freely
In France, many public restrooms require a small fee or may not be readily available. Carry a bit of change for pay toilets, especially in popular areas, and don’t expect restrooms in smaller cafes without making a purchase.
12. Expecting to eat at 6 pm
American people often have dinner around 6 p.m., whereas the French typically dine later, often starting at 7:30 pm or 8 pm (sometimes closer to 9 pm). Plan accordingly when going to an authentic French restaurant.